COUPLE PSYCHOTHERAPY & COACHING
HOLDING SPACE for COUPLES
You may be feeling distant, frustrated and unhappy, having problems communicating, having conflicts & fights without resolution, going through difficult life transitions, lacking intimacy, feeling stuck etc. When these conflicts are not resolved, they often get worse.
OR, perhaps you simply want support and help to move through some present issues you are experiencing as you move through life together. Often couples come to therapy when the relationship is already at a difficult stage and so I often recommend that COUPLE THERAPY can be of good use much earlier in a PREVENTATIVE way to stop larger problems from happening.
All couples at certain points in their relationships experience conflict of some sort. Depending on how you “hold” and treat the conflicts will affect the quality of the relationships.
HEALTHY CONFLICT is when you use conflict to grow and learn. Successful happy relationships are not devoid of conflict. Instead, they are worked through in a way that the partners feel understood and respected.
UNRESOLVED CONFLICT can result in more resentment, arguments and distancing.
The HOLDING SPACE for COUPLES allows you to have the support you need to share at a deep level. Through being open and vulnerable, you can engage in healthy conflict and have difficult conversations and feelings that are important for your process and healing.
Often partners want to blame and shame each other instead of seeing their own contributions to the dynamics in the relationship.
In the HOLDING SPACE for COUPLES the focus is on your PERSONAL PROCESS as well as on the RELATIONSHIP PROCESS. You both will be encouraged to focus on yourselves, your own personal work and unmet expectations and needs, as well as on your partner and on the relationship. Becoming a more effective partner and working on yourself emotionally, is a powerful way to change a relationship.
In the HOLDING SPACE for COUPLES You will learn:-
to identify unhealthy patterns of interaction
to recognise your blockages
to find new ways of communicating verbally and non-verbally ( e.g. facial gestures )
to practice active listening
to find common interests
to understand each other’s point of view
to assert your needs
to respect each other’s different perspectives
to be open-mindedness
to build a more balanced, harmonious, loving, safe relationship
Sometimes I suggest that there be break off, separate individual sessions for the partners who may need to work through specific issues that may arise in the couple therapy.
All couples welcome – LGBTQIA and heterosexual